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Learn why people trust wikiHow. Download Article Explore this Article parts. Conversation Help. Tips and Warnings. Related Articles. Article Summary. Conversation Help Sample Funny Anecdotes. Part 1. Develop your interests. You don't need to be a brain to find things to talk about, but you do need to have passions and interests. A person who can talk naturally about things he's interested in is always better conversation than someone armed with pre-written prompts and a vague hope of getting a date.
List everything you're interested in. Go for more detail rather than less. Using the example above, you might think about what brand of guitar you own or rent versus the brand you wish you could have, what concerts you've been to, and which funk bands you enjoy. Make a mental note of your opinion on each topic. This will help you to know yourself better. When you talk about any subject you have an interest in, you'll be able to speak confidently about it and explain why you're interested in it, which makes good conversation.
Practice saying things out loud. Get used to talking, or you'll never be able to talk well. One of the easiest and simplest things you can do to improve your comfort level is simply to say things aloud to yourself. This helps you get comfortable with the sound of your own voice, and with speaking rather than simply responding to others.
Whenever you're home alone is a great choice. It doesn't have to be regularly scheduled; just seize opportunities as they arise. Say something. Try to talk a little bit about something rather than just mumbling a few words. Tell yourself about the plot of the last TV show or movie you watched. If you can't think of anything to say, find a book and read aloud from it. When reading from a book, try to make the words sound natural, rather than the stilted sight-reading drone that many people lapse into.
Read a sentence or two in your head first, then say them aloud as though you had just thought of them yourself. Books of poetry are ideal for this.
Poetry is almost always meant to be read aloud, and the concentration required to be able to read a poem naturally will help distract you from feeling silly. Keep talking for a little while. Try to speak out loud for at least a minute. Over time, this will help you get used to initiating conversations and speaking your mind, which are important skills for making a good impression on your crush.
Talk to girls. Wherever you interact with women on a regular basis — work, school, clubs, or elsewhere — make an extra effort to engage in small talk with them. This will teach you that there is nothing to fear about talking to a girl, even if you have a crush on her. Ask them how their week has been going, and use short questions to encourage them to talk more. Most girls will be glad to talk with you for a moment. If a girl asks about your week after she's told you about hers, do the polite thing and tell her, in about the same level of detail she used when talking to you.
Leave out the fact that you're trying to get better at talking to girls. Be friendly with project partners. At school or during community service, you will often be paired with a partner. When your partner is a girl you don't know very well, a little geniality will go a long way towards making things comfortable for both of you.
Try talking about the project rather than asking about her. If she responds well, continue on, and mix in small talk and simple questions as you go along. Don't ask her about herself or her life. Instead, ask her what she thinks of another person, such as the teacher, or an upcoming event you both know about.
Don't talk too often. Show that you're primarily interested in being helpful and completing your project together. Speak as thoughts come to you, rather than pushing the conversation along.
Part 2. Stay prepared. If you want to make a good impression on a girl, the very least you can do is control your behavior and your hygiene. Wear deodorant. Clip your fingernails regularly. If you wear cologne, remember: less is more. Spray enough onto your wrists and the base of your neck that you can smell it from a foot or two away at most, but no more.
Good cologne will dry down and last several hours; there is no need to overdo it. Always dress your best. Use clean clothes, and plan outfits the evening before you wear them so you don't have to make last-minute substitutions. Be on your best behavior. You don't have to stop being the class clown if that's who you are, but you shouldn't say or do anything that you wouldn't want your crush to know about. You never know what might get back to her. Be kind and forgiving with others, and avoid getting into trouble with higher-ups.
Make your approach. One important thing before we start: more important than what do you speak, is how you speak. No matter what subject you choose, lways keep it fun and playful, trying to make her laugh, without trying too hard.
Easier said, than done, I know. This is why you need a few conversational topics that are low effort and still engaging to get things started. Getting a woman talking about her favorite books, movies, music or art is a great way to do so. The trick here, however, is to not ask for too little. Ask her for two songs from her favorite band that she thinks you should listen to and ask her what those two songs mean to her. I swear to God, relationship related topics are like conversational crack for most women.
And then ask your date to tell you her version. Once she gets the hang of it to start getting more and more imaginative and ridiculous with your stories. I hate conversations that drab and uninteresting.
The key here, again, is to ask for more than just an impersonal list of travel destinations. Or ask her where she would go if she could disappear for an entire month without having to worry about her work or any other responsibilities. These types of conversations will get her imagination firing on overdrive and put her in an uplifted emotional state; both feelings which she will start associating with you.
But discussing her passion can be quite an interesting start to taking your relationship with her further. When a girl tells you what she likes the most, you can encourage her to talk more on that topic and help her to take her passion further. For example, if her passion is gardening, you can take your girl to a nursery she may like and help her in choosing plants of her choice.
All the girls love to talk about their parents, siblings and friends. So if you talk to her about family values and culture, she may also talk about her family. It will also give you an idea whether the girl you like is really your type, traditional or modern and how much her family will influence your life together once you take the relationship further.
Although it is quite funny, your girl will definitely open up warmly if you ask her about the craziest thing she has ever done or would like to do ever. If she is shy and does not want to talk about it, tell your girl that you will not like or dislike her based on her honest outpour.
Once she begins to talk about the craziest things in her life, you can think of playing a game and each coming up with a crazy thing to do one after the other. If you have just started dating, you can talk about spirituality and philosophy with the girl you like. If you have met on Facebook then you can start chatting about these topics on social media too.
When you talk about such topics with your girl you can easily understand whether you are both compatible or not. So it is also a way of understanding what her perspective about life is like and more. Everyone in love would like to talk about love and romance and you can always use this topic to make your relationship with your girl more romantic and interesting. If you are trying hard to make a particular girl like you a lot then you should talk about love to give her an idea of what exactly you are expecting her.
If your girl loves to travel or is crazy about adventures and trekking, then it is one of the topics you can always talk about together. There are very few people who do not like to travel. So, if you want to make your discussion on Facebook more interesting you can always talk about the places where you girl would like to go and so on.
If your relationship is going smoothly you can talk with the girl you like about her sexual experiences inside the bedroom. The chances of her telling you the truth are higher if you already are having a close relationship.
But it is always better to talk about such things with the girl you like prior to getting intimate. Yes, it is highly important that you talk to your girlfriend about her special dreams.
It is natural to have dreams. But she will not share with anyone whom she has just met. She will talk about it only when she thinks you to be special. When you talk to her about your dreams, your girl will also open up about her visions, dreams, and passions.
Women are always eager to talk about love-making and seduction. So, if you tell her about your interest in seduction and reveal some tips to her during the discussion, your girl surely is going to get interested and is sure to invite you for that night-coffee that can certainly lead to something special.
No girl will talk about her biggest secrets on her first date. But of course, if you will show interest in her secrets and inquire about them, she will instantly feel an emotional connection with you.
You can always reveal some of your secrets to her and talk elaborately about them to encourage your girl to feel at home with you and reveal her biggest secrets to you. If you met on the Facebook for the first time, then you have a lot of things to know and talk to each other.
You can always inquire about her hobbies and accordingly suggest her various things.
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